Coping with change
by Mary M
Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen, chairperson, fellow contestants, and special guests. My name is Mary Julienne Mangulabnan, and I am a Year 10 student from Scottsdale High School.
Today, I stand before you all to speak about something that truly transformed my life: coping with change. Change is and will never be easy. It tests us, pushes us beyond our comfort zones, and forces us to grow. In 2022, at the age of 12, I faced the biggest change I could imagine. At the time, I was naïve to what was ahead.
Fast forward, I now realise, this experience was one of the greatest changes I, along with my family have experienced.
This was moving from the Philippines to Australia a choice that changed everything I thought I knew about not only the world but also about myself.
Before my arrival here, in Australia, my understanding of this country was limited to what I had seen on the internet: the beaches, the kangaroos, the Sydney Opera House.
I honestly thought I would step off the plane and be greeted by a bunch of Aussies in flannelette shirts, wearing Akubra hats and holding a pet koala. It was a struggle to even imagine what everyday life would be like, how people lived, or what challenges I would experience.
What I did know was that I was about to leave behind everything familiar to me: the streets I grew up on, the culture I loved, school and most importantly, my family.
Life in the Philippines was vibrant, full of laughter, tradition, and close bonding with family and friends. Having to leave all of that behind filled me with a series of mixed emotions like excitement for the new opportunities, fear of the unknown, and a deep, aching homesickness for the people and places that I had grown to love since I was a kid. This life was all I knew!
What I found the most challenging part of all was leaving my family—the people who had always been my greatest source of strength. Even to this day, there are moments when the distance feels a lot stronger.
However, I have also learned that the love and lessons of family are things you carry with you, no matter how far you are. When I first arrived here in Australia, everything was different—the streets, the food, and of course, a different language.
It was overwhelming. I felt lost, like a puzzle piece that couldn’t figure out how to fit in. Starting school here only made those feelings stronger. Walking into a completely new environment, surrounded by people that weren’t familiar to me, in a system I didn’t understand, was terrifying. But slowly, things began to change.
The teachers welcomed me with patience and encouragement. My new classmates showed kindness, making me feel like I had a place here.
The wider community showcased warmth and acceptance, helping me realise that belonging isn’t about where you are, it’s about who you connect with. Through all of this, my family here remained my heroes reminding me to stay strong, to stay proud of where I came from, and to embrace the journey ahead.
One of the turning points for me was joining the Australian Army Cadets. A program that teaches you a variety of valuable skills and gives you the opportunity to make new friends from around Tasmania and the wider Australian community. Through Cadets, and specifically through the wide variety of leadership courses I’ve been fortunate enough to experience.
These achievements have allowed me to learn new skills, I also discovered a new side of myself. I will be honest; the courses were not easy. They demanded discipline, courage, and leadership under pressure. They taught me how to work as part of a team, how to communicate with clarity and respect, and most importantly, how to stay calm and lead even when everything around me felt uncertain.
However, beyond the uniforms, beyond the camps and ranks, what I still find means the most to me was the sense of belonging I discovered and felt. I found what I now consider a second family in Cadets.
At my cadet barracks in Scottsdale, I met people who supported me like family, who stood beside me in the toughest drills and the most rewarding achievements. They encouraged me, challenged me out of my comfort zone, and ensured that I felt like I belonged there.
Through camps and leadership opportunities, I also built friendships with fellow cadets from places all over Tasmania. Despite communication being tough at times due to being in different areas of the state, we connected through our shared goals and experiences.
Whether it was conducting a training in the rain, planning a camp for younger cadets, staying up late after a long day, or laughing through struggles that we share, these people became part of my extended family.
Their presence has taught and reminded me that you can find comfort and connection in places you least expect to and that sometimes, family isn’t just who you’re born to it’s also who you grow with. For me family is not just about blood, it’s more about the people I’ve learned to love because of how we care for each other.
It’s the way they show up, support me, and make me feel safe wherever we are. That is the kind of love and consistency that I feel makes someone family in my eyes.
One quote we often hear in Cadets is: “Make the most of the opportunities that come your way.” That lesson stuck with me. No matter how hard things were, I learned to take every new experience, every challenge, every success, every setback and turn it into something that made me stronger.
Cadets taught me that leadership isn’t about standing above others; it’s about standing with them, guiding them through the good times and the hard ones as well.
One individual who has been constantly reminding me of the importance of growth and pushing boundaries is my drama teacher Miss Walker. She is definitely someone who I’ve looked up too since meeting her in year 7.
She once stated something that has stayed with me ever since: “There’s always room for improvement.” At the time, it sounded simple, but over the past three years, those words became something deeper for me.
Miss Walker always believed in me even during the times that I doubted myself. With her encouragement, her challenges, and her ability to see potential within me when I couldn’t do so myself was what pushed me out of my comfort zone.
If it wasn’t for her guidance, patience, and endless support, I wouldn’t be standing here today, sharing this story before you all. She’s someone whose hard work often goes behind the scenes and is usually unnoticed, however for me, her impact has been immeasurable and outstanding.
Whether it was through her quiet words of encouragement, the way she challenged me in production, or her ability to lift my mood up when things got overwhelming.
Miss Walker has constantly reminded me that improvement is not about being the best at school, it’s all about becoming a better version of yourself every passing day. I am and will be eternally grateful for her presence within my journey.
Looking back now, I realise that change, while difficult, has been the greatest gift in my life. It forced me to grow, to be brave, to adapt, and to find strength I didn’t even know I had. It showed me that you can love where you come from, miss it deeply, and still open your heart to a new home.
Today, I am proud of my roots. I am proud to call Australia my home. And I am proud of the journey - every messy, challenging, beautiful step of it that has made me who I am today. Home is not just a place on a map. Home is the people you love, the lessons you carry, and the person you become along the way.
As I stand here today, I realise that every challenge I’ve faced, every change I’ve encountered, has shaped me into who I am. But I also know that I am not finished growing. The journey of change is ongoing, and with each new opportunity, I hope to continue learning, improving, and inspiring others just as I’ve been inspired. So, to anyone going through change right now, have you ever had to leave everything you know behind? Not knowing if you will ever sincerely feel at home again.
Remember that it’s okay to feel unsure, it’s okay to struggle, but don’t ever prevent yourself from embracing the journey ahead. You never know just how strong and capable you are until you step into the unknown
It’s a great honour to be able to share my journey with you. As you leave today, I hope that you carry this with you:
change might make you feel like losing your way, however sometimes it’s just the beginning of finding a new one. May you always have the courage and patience to step into the unknown.